Vaginismus is defined as the involuntary spasm or contraction of the muscles that surround the vagina. For women with this chronic condition, any kind of vaginal penetration can be painful – especially intercourse. The key to treatment of vaginismus is what is known as “dilation.” This refers to the introduction of a series of graduated dilators into the vaginal canal, which pass over these tight muscles and gradually allow them to stretch to accommodate penetration. Choosing a vaginal dilator is an art unto itself. There are many on the market, and they can differ in size (length and width), material (silicone, plastic, magnetic) and even functionality. With so many recent advances in women’s health and sex tech, I was not surprised to see a new dilator on the market which leverages technology to gradually expand all on its own. Her name is Milli. My interest was piqued.
But there’s a new kid on the block: Milli. Milli is a dilator which is unique, in that it uses millimeter by millimeter self-expansion in order to stretch the muscles around the opening of the vagina. It also has an optional vibrational setting, which can be a helpful distraction to the discomfort of the dilation itself. It is made of silicone, and has a soft coating for comfort. It also has a 10.5cm handle, which provides plenty of length to help keep the dilator in place. Like other dilators, Milli should only be used with water-based lubricants and should be cleaned with soap and water after each use.
Now, for the downsides. The most obvious to me is the price – a whopping $249.99. Most of the dilator kits on the market range from $50-$150, so the steep price tag of this dilator is certainly a big ask of the consumer. That’s a great deal of money to spend, when less pricey alternatives on the market can get the job done equally as well. The next is functionality. Yes, it is convenient to not have to contend with 7 or 8 different size dilators. However, this dilator only goes from 15mm to 40mm – which is 0.5 to 1.5 inches. Many women need to dilate to diameters much bigger than 1.5 inches in order to eventually achieve successful penile penetration. And while the gradual inflation of the device is convenient, it does not simulate the natural “in and out” motion of intercourse, which innately happens when passing a series of graduated dilators.
Now, go see for yourself! If you have used Milli, feel free to share your experience with us at Maze Women’s Health. We have an entire forum dedicated to vaginismus and vaginal dilation, so please feel comment and share your review with others. We would love to hear from you!
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